Recently I had the privilege of chatting with Building 429’s lead singer, Jason Roy. In the course of our conversation, we got talking about life at home with his wife and two children, which he began by saying, “I’m a husband and father first, a musician and all else second.” After 11 years of marriage, ups and downs, and always maintaining a firm commitment to one another, Jason shared some “rules” kept by both of them:
- We don’t do drama.
- We spend time together.
- We apologize – even when it’s hard.
- We turn off the computer (and other e-devices).
- We don’t flirt with other people.
- We don’t hang out along with the opposite sex.
- We tell each other everything.
- We speak well of each other with each other
- We value each other.
- We place each other’s needs ahead of our own.
Considering your relationship, is this list do-able or daunting? Maybe it’s both. However, I would offer that even it seems like it will be tough, it’s worth it. Just think of how your relationship will grow and how God-honoring you will be to a watching world.
“Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.”- Ephesians 4:2-3