LIFE 88.5 http://life885.com Christian Radio - Kansas City Tue, 31 Mar 2015 06:12:45 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.1.1 Caffeine and naps http://life885.com/2015/03/caffeine-and-naps/ http://life885.com/2015/03/caffeine-and-naps/#comments Mon, 30 Mar 2015 19:00:43 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/caffeine-and-naps/ Should you drink caffeine in the morning? Is a little okay? Is a lot okay?

Physical therapist and author Dr. Lisa Morrone acknowledges that many people drink caffeine in the morning to get a little kick as they start out their day. The reason that we like caffeine is that it actually helps our brain to not feel tired.

The results of studies have varied. Some research has said that a little caffeine is actually good for us. Others have cautioned against caffeine entirely.

Lisa shared that according to the National Institute of Health and the American Heart Association, drinking one to two cups of caffeinated beverages a day should be fine. It shouldn’t produce any adverse health affects.

However, when we’re drinking more than that, there’s a problem. The caffeine is causing our bodies to experience a continual flow of adrenaline that’s not natural.

“It starts to wreak havoc in our lives.”

Overdosing on caffeine is what we really need to stay away from. Individuals with high blood sugar or a fast heart rate especially need to avoid excessive caffeine because it will increase those things.

The worst mistake is to drink caffeine at the wrong time. Drinking caffeine before bed is hard on us because caffeine lasts several hours in our bodies. Use of caffeine goes hand in hand with sleep habits.

“We’re using caffeine to ward of tiredness when we actually should be sleeping to ward off tiredness.”

God didn’t create or bodies to rely on stimulants instead of sleep. We need to make sure that we’re getting a good amount of sleep. If, for some reason, we don’t get a good night’s sleep one night, we should take a nap the next day.

A full sleep cycle of 90 minutes is ideal. If we don’t have 90 minutes, a 15 minute nap is best. A 30-40 minute nap won’t be very helpful because we’ll wake up in the middle of a sleep cycle and won’t feel rested at all.

While naps are a good substitute for missing one nights sleep, they can’t be used to remedy consistent lack of sleep.

Lisa’s book is Sleep Well Again

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Keeping up with today’s economy http://life885.com/2015/03/keeping-economy/ http://life885.com/2015/03/keeping-economy/#comments Mon, 30 Mar 2015 19:00:38 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/keeping-economy/ What does it take to launch and sustain a career in an economy that seems to only offer part-time work?  Robert Dickie III has answers and insights from his own experience leaving the so-called security of a corporate position to launch a new career as an entrepreneur. His book is:+ The Leap: Launching Your Full-Time Career in Our Part-Time Economy.

Robert refers to the recession in 2008 as ‘the year that changed the game’. It not only changed the business mentality nationwide, but made an substantial impact on the entire economy. While living in the epicenter of the economic change in Detroit, MI., Dickie shares about his personal journey in following God’s path in the midst of financial uncertainties. The economy we are entering into today is structurally different and offers primarily more part-time and freelance work, rather than full-time employment with benefits. So how can we launch ourselves into a part-time work and still make a comfortable living?

In a world of constant change, we are reminded that God will remain the steady rock we can stand on.  If we would simply follow God’s plan for our lives, we will be taken care of and provided for no matter what economic crisis we may face.

“God has ordained a special plan in each of our lives”

God’s greatest gift to us is the reconciliation to Himself through his son Jesus Christ, and as a result; we can truly identify with who He has called us to be. No matter where we are working, we can be good stewards of what God has set before us will diligence, integrity and excellence. We are also made aware to the dangers of complacency;

“Be content but don’t become complacent”

So what is our inner most motivation? If it’s anything other than pleasing to God, we could find ourselves in a world of self-centeredness and idolatry. Our motivation should be to put others before ourselves and continuously seek His kingdom first.

“The safest place you can be, is to seek and follow the will of God for your life”

Anything can happen in our economy, but God’s promises for our life don’t change. We can be anchored in Him to withstand every storm that comes our way.

Robert shared advice on 4 equally important anchors to help us with The Leap;

  • Mental
  • Financial
  • Physical
  • Spiritual

By maintaining a healthy frame of mind, creating financial margin, taking care of our physical and spiritual health; we can be well on our way to embracing the calling upon our lives and freely giving of what is required.

God has the ability to take care of us and open doors of opportunity that we couldn’t ask for or imagine. Whether you are a full-time, part-time or freelance worker, find benefit from the biblical and encouraging perspectives shared on today’s Connecting Faith.

More information and helpful resources can be found at www.robertdickie.com

Highlight: Anchors

Keeping up with today’s economy

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For King & Country on Jimmy Kimmel Show http://life885.com/2015/03/for-king-country-on-jimmy-kimmel-show/ http://life885.com/2015/03/for-king-country-on-jimmy-kimmel-show/#comments Thu, 26 Mar 2015 21:08:36 +0000 http://life885.com/?p=249785 Just in case you didn’t get a chance to see For King & Country perform on the Jimmy Kimmel Show last night, here are the links so you can enjoy their performance for yourself.

Fix My Eyes

Run Wild

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Excuses, excuses… http://life885.com/2015/03/excuses-excuses/ http://life885.com/2015/03/excuses-excuses/#comments Thu, 26 Mar 2015 18:00:43 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/excuses-excuses/

“Make the most of every opportunity” Ephesians 5:16 says.

“Always be ready to give the reason for your hope” 1 Peter 3:15 exhorts.

When you think of having an opportunity to witness to others concerning the Lord, you probably think of sharing with someone when they’re down, or of praising the Lord when things are good or bad.

Even in our mistakes, we have an opportunity to testify to His character and to demonstrate repentance and the acceptance of His grace and forgiveness.

Scripture is clear: those who glorify God don’t make excuses when they make mistakes. That’s because:

1. Excuses can be a form of pride

In 2 Corinthians 11 and 12, Paul describes his sufferings and his work in the Lord. It’s in 2 Corinthians 12:7 that he shares the well-known words that God spoke to him

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

Imagine if Paul used excuses for His weakness instead of pointing to the Lord’s sufficiency. Suddenly Paul’s life would have been about him – what he tried to do, the ways his circumstances inhibited him. He wouldn’t be boasting in the Lord, he’d be boasting about relying on Himself.

Boasting about mistakes may sound absurd, but we all do it. We just shift the blame to make ourselves out to be more resilient, or to be martyrs. That’s prideful. And it encourages us not to stand up before the Lord in confidence and surrender to Him, but to choose to muddle through our trials as if we’re saintly for doing so.

2. Excuses can set aside the grace of God

At the same time, when we rely on excuses, we “set aside the grace of God” (Galatians 2:21). Paul describes being made new in Christ, dying to self that He might live through us. That means relying on Christ for righteousness, and not our works or our own attempts at justification.

There is no more “I tried not to sin but this and this made me”, or “I’m sorry but look, I did this well and I’m going to do better.” There is only repentance, the Lord’s forgiveness, and living in that grace.

In choosing not to justify yourself but to admit you are a sinner and to turn to Christ, you can go confidently before the Lord and before men, proclaiming the righteousness of Christ alone and the hope we have in Him.

3. Excuses can withhold glory from God

“Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story” Psalm 107:2 proclaims.

Then stories of the redeemed are told: boldly, honestly, and all structured to praise the Lord for His works, not to qualify the worth of the men He saved.

The glory due to the Lord (all glory) does not leave room for the glorification of man’s attempts at earning righteousness. That means that when we tell our stories as a part of the Lord’s story, He’s the protagonist. We’re the saved, not the worthy. No matter what excuses we have for our unworthiness.

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Lessons in patience http://life885.com/2015/03/lessons-in-patience/ http://life885.com/2015/03/lessons-in-patience/#comments Thu, 26 Mar 2015 18:00:42 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/lessons-in-patience/ I’ve heard you should be careful about praying for patience, because if you do, God will make you wait for something.

I hadn’t been praying for patience, but that didn’t change the fact that I found myself waiting for a package this past week. I’d ordered it with 2 day shipping, but almost a week later, it still hadn’t arrived. I’ll admit, it’s a silly thing to get upset about. It wasn’t emergency supplies or anything. And soon, my wonderful wife pointed this fact out to me. “Getting upset doesn’t get it her faster,” she said.

That’s when I had to sit, calm down, and remind myself to be patient. And the more I think of that impatience, the more I’ve seen two lessons to learn.

  1. Impatience comes from things outside our control. If everything was under our control, we’d never have to be patient. We could just have what we wanted now. Instead, there are a multitude of things we can never change and that we have to wait on.  Some of them are packages in the mail, but more often it’s waiting on God for something, from a relationship issue, to an answer to a prayer related to our health. The lesson to learn? When things seem out of our control, it’s time to wait on God.
  2. Patience is the antithesis to our selfish desires. We get impatient because of what we want.  I wanted my package to arrive when I wanted it, not 4 days later. So I got impatient and upset.  I wasn’t concerned about anyone else; I just wanted to what I thought I deserved.  I wasn’t thoughtful of the guy driving a delivery truck that may have broken down. Or my poor wife that had to listen to me complain about it every day.  The lesson? When God makes us wait for something, it can be an opportunity to analyze our motives for why we’re waiting for it and make sure we’re pursuing what God wants for us.

Of course, the hardest part about learning patience is the learning it part. You can’t gain patience through anything other than experience. But when we’re tested and stretched and forced to wait, we can either get frustrated and make things miserable for ourselves (and those around us) or we can see it as what it is: a chance to learn something from God.

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You know me http://life885.com/2015/03/know/ http://life885.com/2015/03/know/#comments Thu, 26 Mar 2015 18:00:35 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/know/

“You have searched me, Lord, and you know me…” Psalm 139

Being known is something we all desire.  Not in the sense of being famous or popular, although some people may think that will make them ‘feel’ known, but that word known in Hebrew breaks down to a few things that actually send chills down my spine:

Acquainted
Acknowledged
Concerned
Understood
To Comprehend

I don’t know about you but I don’t comprehend myself a lot of the time. But to know that there is one who not only comprehends me, understands me, and sees me, but is also concerned for me and acquainted with me – I need to know that and be reminded of it often.

You need to know that you are known because life will tell you that you are not.
Pain will tell you that you are invisible.
Relationships will tell you that you are rejected.
Suffering will tell you that you’ve been abandoned.
Trials will tell you that you’re a failure.
Loneliness will tell you that you are not enough.

Seasons will come and seasons will go and with each season like a tossing wave you will feel validated one moment and invaluable the next.

Your successes will breath hope into your lungs and your mishaps will take that same breath away.

But Psalm 139 tells us that we are familiar and valuable, chosen, seen, heard, understood by a God who calls us His own even when life tells us otherwise.

A couple of years ago I woke up different.  My bones ached. My joints ached. My body was weak. My legs were numb. My arms went cold. My energy was gone. I felt like I had the flu…except it never went away. I was different from then on. After countless attempts to cure and find answers I was beyond frazzled and tired. I was tired of asking men what was wrong with me and decided what I needed wasn’t more tests, or a diagnosis from limited human minds that didn’t even create me.

What I needed was prayer.
What I needed was strength.
What I needed was hope.
What I needed was to know that in the face of my mystery illness that whether or not it went away that God could still see me and was with me in spite of my weak and frail body.

“He notes my very countenance, whether smiling or in tears, whether healthful or sickly.  He looks tenderly upon my hands and feet; he hears my voice, the beating of my heart, and my very breathing, I do no love myself better than He loves me”  John Henry Newman

Have you been in this place?  Where you feel numb? Have you ever been in a situation that has left you feeling lifeless, helpless, exhausted, or invisible?

When I reached the end of myself, I reached out to a woman that I co-lead our single moms group with and asked her if she would mind praying with me. This girl sends down heaven when she prays, I wish I prayed like that. As we talked she said “you know I have someone else that I would like to bring in with me to pray over you, his name is Ben and God speaks through him.” I was open – maybe a tad cynical because I was tired of being disappointed but I said okay.

We met in a prayer room and my friend Aisa and Ben began to pray over me. They both placed their hands upon my shoulders and began to pray over my health, my diagnosis, my family, my worries but then something else happened that I hadn’t bargained for. They both began praying and speaking of things that no one else would ever know unless they were inside my head. They began to speak of areas in my heart where I needed to forgive. They began to speak of my anxieties. They began to speak about my music and how I had notebooks full of songs that I needed to share but was to afraid to (No one knows about my notebooks of music except my husband) As they began to pray over me they began to pray that the Lord would give me a new song right then and there. That is when the words and melody for “You know me” dropped into my head …

You wrap these wounds hidden in me
Oh your love it covers me
Though I am worn…

You hold my chin and lift it high
Oh your hope it fills my eyes
through the storm

Every need you meet
Every ache you see
Every desperate plea
You see me

Every victory
I have yet to see
In the mystery
You see me

You know me
You’ve known me
And called me by name

You take my hands and pick me up
Oh your spirit fills my cup
And takes me in, again

You take this heart and make it clean
Oh you wipe away these stains
And make me new, I’m new

Every need you meet
Every ache you see
Every desperate plea
You see me

Every victory
I have yet to see
In the mystery
You see me

You know me
You’ve known me
And called me by name

It was as though  in that moment of being worn and sickly that God showed me “I see you.” It was in that moment that through these people He reminded me that He knew the areas in my heart that still needed forgiveness, the ares in my heart that were still wounded. In that moment He reminded me that He has known me from the beginning, He saw my yesterdays, He holds my todays and my tomorrows. He holds and He cradles me throughout every part.

“You are all around me – in front and in back – and you have put your hand on me” Psalm 139:5

It was in that moment that He not only showed me that He saw my brokenness, unforgiveness, worries, fears, anxieties and frailty that He also saw my dreams and victories….from the beginning…

“All the days planned for me were written in your book before I was one day old” Psalm 139:16

In that moment He reminded me that I’m a Psalmist and that I have been given something not to possess but to give away and I was keeping it inside because of all of my fear of rejection, fear of not being enough, fear of not measuring up.

Everyone has a innate desire and need to be known. To be known in our frailty, in our darkness, in our valleys of uncertainty and our rivers yet to be crossed.  God sees us from before and loved us when we were not yet.

“You saw my bones being formed as I took shape in my mother’s body. When I was put together there, you saw my body as it was formed.” Psalm 139:16

In my greatest fear of my body robbing me of life, God gave me life once again in that moment as if to say,  “I see your suffering, I’ve been there too…I’ve known you from the beginning, I’ve called you by name, I have chosen you for my own, I have never left you and I never will”

I can honestly say even though it has been hard waking every day to a body that is less than cooperative, I am in a weird way thankful that God used my broken external shell to be moved and changed inwardly. I am thankful that He used my weakness to strengthen my spirit. This is the paradox of the gospel, that a most perfect God would be bruised so that broken people would be made whole and that our brokenness would make us more perfect in and through Him.

I am broken and as the Easter season begins I still ask the Lord to meet my need and bring me healing and if not, I know that He sees me, He knows me and He has called me by name to be His very own whether in comfort or in discomfort…I will praise His name.

God wants you to know that you are known. He has known you from before you were formed.  He knows you in your trials, victories yet to be seen and all the in between..and He has called you by name.

Click here to listen to You Know Me in iTunes.

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How can a dog teach us about God? http://life885.com/2015/03/can-dog-teach-us-god/ http://life885.com/2015/03/can-dog-teach-us-god/#comments Thu, 26 Mar 2015 18:00:29 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/can-dog-teach-us-god/ Sometimes when life weighs you down, you need to take a minute to laugh – and our pets can be a source of laughter and encouragement. Comedian Phil Callaway  shares some of the lessons from his book: Tricks My Dog Taught Me: About Life, Love, and God.

  • Sometimes love means you’re not all there:”Love is crazy. When we think of the love of Christ, it’s crazy to think He would rather die than leave us as we are.”
  • Home is where my people are – and food. When Phil and his family brought home their new puppy, he surprised them:”One of the very first acts – it took off running. I ambled after it but it was already headed home, back to its mother. Now, fifteen years later, we head out on a walk… it turns home [to our house]. It’s accepted, it’s loved. From the moment this dog gets up, its eyes are on its master. This dog has taught me to be an incurable optimist.
  • All of us long to be patted – or encouraged
  •  “Stay”:  “[I joke that]we’ve been married 32 of the best years of my wife’s life!  I was teaching my dog the fine art of ‘staying’ — all the while my wife is facing this debilitating illness… It hit me that here I am, teaching my dog to stay – those who simply ‘stay’ when all the world says ‘run’ are rewarded in ways they never thought possible. What a gift you can be today by simply being faithful.”
  • Persevere.
  • When you don’t get what you want, roll with it.
  • You can grow old without growing ugly: “Never stop learning. You can teach an old dog new tricks! Whatever age you are, be looking for ways to be a blessing this very day.”
  • Nothing can steal your joy until you give it permission:”We can’t blame the Enemy for stealing our joy. We can’t blame anyone else for stealing our joy; that’s up to us.
  • The good life is right in front of you when you stop chasing a better one.

Highlight : Learning joy from your dog

How can a dog teach us about God?

Photo: Shelby Joy Rich
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Rules of the game http://life885.com/2015/03/rules-game/ http://life885.com/2015/03/rules-game/#comments Wed, 25 Mar 2015 19:00:48 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/rules-game/ Recently my son and his friends asked me if I wanted to play a new card game with them. I jumped at the chance. It was not often that my teen-aged son invited me to participate in anything that he was doing.

We sat at the table and one of the boys shuffled the deck and dealt seven cards to everyone.

“What is the object of the game?” I asked.

The dealer set another card in front of me and said, “Penalty for talking!”

“Wait, what? I just asked a question,” I responded.

The other boys just smiled as the dealer threw down another card and said, “Penalty for talking!”

“Are you kidding me? You haven’t even told me how the game is to be played! Just give me the rules,” I demanded.

Once again the dealer said, “Penalty for talking,” as he threw another card my way.

After collecting three penalty cards, I wasn’t going to say another word. I watched carefully as each person around the table began laying down a card. I had no idea what they were doing. When it came to my turn I put down what looked like the right card, a King of Hearts.

As soon as I did the dealer threw another card at me and said “Penalty for not saying ‘All hail the king’ as you played a king!”

I picked up my penalty card, and the dealer threw another card at me and said, “Penalty for not thanking the dealer for the last penalty card!” Are you kidding me?

Not knowing the rules of a card game is difficult. Not knowing the rules in a relationship can be exasperating!

When I’ve talked to people about their greatest challenges in relationships it usually has to do with expectations or rules that were unspoken, misunderstood or just unrealistic. They shared how they were penalized for breaking a rule that they didn’t know existed.

We’ve all been there. We have either failed to meet someone else’s expectation or they have failed to meet ours. We may have rules on how we expect others to behave or how they should react or respond to our needs, wants, and desires.

Maybe these rules or expectation include how we discipline children, who does certain chores, how money is spent, how much time we spend at work, how we experience family traditions, where we go on vacation, how we settle disagreements, how we speak to one another, or even the proper way to load silverware in the dishwasher (some people get really touchy about this one).

Trying to live under others’ unspoken, unclear or unrealistic expectations and rules can be very frustrating.

A young friend of mine who got married recently was surprised when he was penalized for not calling his in-laws to thank them for a birthday gift. He had sent a nice note but in that family, the unwritten rule was to call the gift giver.

Another friend of mine would get penalized at work if he left before his boss. When his boss had to stay late, he expected this employee to stay late as well. This expectation never been verbalized, it was really unrealistic.

If you have rules or expectations about how you want things done but neither share or communicate clearly, you prevent others from meeting your expectations. They may find it difficult to be in relationship with you.

Reflect on the your expectations of others.

• Am I sure others know what is expected of them?

• Are my expectations communicated in a way that others understand?

• Are my rules reasonable or are they getting in the way of my relationships?

When we express expectations and communicate rules clearly, we make it much easier for others to love and be in relationship with us.

“Finally, all of you should be of one mind. Sympathize with each other. Love each other as brothers and sisters. Be tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude.” 1 Peter 3:8

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Life after widowhood http://life885.com/2015/03/life-widowhood/ http://life885.com/2015/03/life-widowhood/#comments Wed, 25 Mar 2015 19:00:06 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/life-widowhood/ God gives and takes away, but blessed be His Name. Author and mother Tricia Lott Williford talks about how God brought comfort after the unexpected death of her husband.

In Tricia’s book, And Life Comes Back: A Wife's Story of Love, Loss, and Hope Reclaimed (Paperback) - Common, she shares her journey of meeting Robb, falling in love, having two children and losing him after a sudden illness, a septic infection that was misdiagnosed as the flu.

“Recently what I miss most about him is the feel of his scruffy cheek – the tangible presence of him, holding his hand. I miss the masculinity of him…I watched him take his last breath. The whole thing happened very very quickly. We said ‘until death parts us,’ and I was there when it happened. Robb was 35 and very suddenly gone. And I was 31, with two small children. And everything changed in the course of 12 hours. All of a sudden I was a widowed single mom, two days before Christmas, and everything I thought I needed was gone.”

How did God start to heal Tricia in the midst of her grief?

“I didn’t have room for [anger]. I couldn’t go there. What had happened had happened, and I needed to face what was in front of me right now. When crisis hits your life, it comes down to what’s in this moment and what to do next. That was one of the things I discovered – it’s about being in this moment, and I’m here, and God loves us… My heart is broken in ways that it cannot be restored this side of heaven.”

Listen in to hear:

  • How grief changes someone:
  • The grace God gives us to be present moment by moment.
  • Establishing a support system in the aftermath of a loss.

Highlight : Living in faith vs. fear

Life after widowhood

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“You don’t love me!” http://life885.com/2015/03/dont-love/ http://life885.com/2015/03/dont-love/#comments Wed, 25 Mar 2015 19:00:05 +0000 http://life885.com/2015/03/dont-love/ We recently received this question from a listener.

“When my son does something he knows he shouldn’t do and I correct him, he tells me I’m mean and that I don’t love him.  That is untrue and makes me feel horrible.  What should I do?”

It’s important to understand why this young man choosing to say something that’s not true.  His goal is to simply to manipulate his mom. He achieves that goal when she feels bad because of his words.  He’s hoping she’ll feel bad enough that Mom won’t reprimand him again.

Mom can eliminate those words but it will take some self-control. She’ll need to fight the urge to react by having hurt feelings. Instead simply responding in an unemotional way is best.  Saying something as simple as “No, that’s not true. I love you and you need to do what I asked you to do.”

No further comments are necessary.  In fact they could prove to be counter-productive. Remember how smart your children are. It isn’t that this son is diabolical or mean, he has just discovered how to be in control. Don’t think for a minute that he actually believes it when he says Mom doesn’t love him.

Perhaps the most important thing to remember is this – Parents show their children love when they set legitimate boundaries and consequences for crossing those boundaries.

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